When I was an adolescent, I used to think with my heart. How I feel at the moment is what I like to follow in the future. However, every time a thing got my interest, I would instantly drop yesterday’s desire to replace it with another new desire. It’s because I couldn’t see through things, my heart would always be the thinker. I was brainless driven by emotional triggers.
I just wanted to have my desires achieved. I had no sense of logic and judged things in terms of what is being viewed with no critical thinking whatsoever. The latter notion is recently figured out, as the beginning of adulthood, though I‘m only 22, but feel like I‘m in my thirties about to enter my forties. And I’ve also got to read on the psychology of my personality and what is the ultimate purpose of life. I thus start to look at it distinctively, with the understanding that silence is a powerful solution, and wisdom is to wait patiently, because there are twists.
I never know what will happen in the next day. And I cannot rely on expectations.
Then, there is my little bro who only responds to things with his heart. I don’t know what he wants, but based on the analysis I made on him, he seems to be experiencing life with the spirit of the « I want, I desire, and that the others don’t understand me and they are stupid ».
Sometimes, he gets on my nerve with his arguments as he mainly speaks with his heart, and I become madly loud. Sometimes, I raise the flag of silence and observation, that I tell myself to let him get the lesson the hard way since I see he’s someone who assumes.
But the problem isn’t the product itself, but rather the producers. They lack the education of how to elevate at every different stage to come.
Upbringing isn’t only about food and clothing; it is about knowing how to nurture physically, mentally and spiritually.
I know we aren’t to blame it on parents. Education has to take actions in teaching students good behavior, and guiding parents to learn the methodology of dealing with different stages of growing-up.